![]() But it really does take its toll on your sex life. Happily, my husband and I are very happy to shift the focus to more oral based sex and the upshot is, I actually have more orgasms now than I did before. ![]() It’s all fixed now (thank God for oestrogen pessaries and vaginal moisturiser) but, psychologically, I still find penetration difficult. Sex became painful because of vaginal dryness. Post 50, I wouldn’t lope off a little toe! My nerve endings went numb and my orgasms went from being powerful, mind-altering experiences to little ‘bleeps’ that hardly registered. I used to cut my arms off to get sex pre-50. The hardest thing about the menopause is…. ![]() But it did lead to me writing, ‘Great Sex Starts at 50’ and it was one of the most enjoyable books of all to write because I got to talk to so many women about their experiences. I knew things happen to women sexually post 50 – I’ve spent my life talking about sex – I just never thought any of the negatives would happen to me! Surely with that many books under my belt, a lifetime of talking and researching sex and being blessed with a lively libido would shield me from any horribleness ahead? Alas, being a ‘sexpert’ doesn’t stop you from going through the menopause (damn!) or having to wrestle with other midlife issues. It gave me something new to write about! After writing 17 books about sex and relationships, I was seriously thinking, ‘What else can I say?” Then I turned 50 and thought, ‘Whoa! What’s going on!’.
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